27 Dec, 2025

“Older women have wisdom they may be prepared to share.
Younger women have opinions they feel entitled to.”

This was said to me today.
By someone relatively new in my team of guides in spirit.
The statement was followed by rather loud laughter.

I’ve been told to call her “MH”

There’s no shame or judgement in that statement.
It’s just an observation — the way of things.
The grand design of life.
An unwritten clause in the whole “being human” agreement we sign when we decide to partake.

So don’t get upset.
Drink it in.
Pay attention — instead of “paying the price”.

I’ve been spammed lately.
Yes…
I did a whole lot of online shopping for the silly season.

I “cheated”.
No — hand picked.
Deliberately chosen.
Perfectly selected.
Bespoke.

Judge me all you like — it’s the way of the world for now.
Everything is online.
There’s no trying it on.
No fondling before purchase.
No placing it in your trolley, wandering the store, then regretting the purchase before you leave.

And that’s fine.

But something’s been weighing on me.

I’ve thought about it deliberately.
Wandered the hallways of my home
And the narrow corridors of my mind.
Ruminating.
Practising the script.
Deciding WHETHER to say what I really think.

Not because I’m worried about the response.
And not because I care what people think of me.

But because I wonder —
Does anybody actually CARE ?

I’ve been asked.
Very specifically.
In multiple emails.

For my opinion.
My response.
On each and every purchase.

And I don’t fumble for words.
I don’t stress about the answer.
I’m not bothered by what others might think of my response.

Because let’s be honest —
When people pick holes in others, they’re usually talking about “themselves” anyway.

The questions are clear:
“How was it?”
“How did we do?”
“Please tell us how great we are.”

And that’s fine.
It’s good business.

Until…

As the responder, I have to ask:
DO YOU actually care?

Or are you ticking boxes in modern society?
Following a marketing guru’s checklist?
Doing what everyone else does because a competitor does it?
Have you outsourced this part of your business and stopped paying attention altogether?

Because if you’re not listening, I’m really tired of wasting my time.

Note to self.

Stop asking for feedback if you’re not prepared to act on it.
Or genuinely consider the gift someone is offering you by taking the time to respond.

So many of us wander through life not really paying attention — and that’s okay.
Until we start pestering people.
Or deliberately drawing attention to ourselves.
Or asking questions we don’t actually want answered.

Or thrashing others in social settings with laser-focused opinions, without the right of reply.
Or — heaven forbid — encountering a contrasting view.

This isn’t a takedown.
It’s just a small rant.

Because whether you’re selling something,
Selling yourself,
Sharing a point of view,
Or promoting a polarising belief —

Maybe there’s a better way.

So, just by way of sharing — because I DO care:

If you’re a company sending emails in the belief it will improve business — actually listen.

If you’re the most opinionated person in the group — maybe it’s time to listen, not linger in how YOU alone will save the world.

And if you’re someone over 50 with a wild ride, or a rock-steady history to share — read the room.

And if you’re younger, certain, and full of fire — notice when passion turns into projection.

Still

Read the room…

Respond when invited.
Act when someone asks.

Because we can all ask questions.
But not all of us are engaged with the answers.

And that has nothing to do with age.

I’m really into contrast.
I value discussion and disagreement.
I’m trying to play in the socials sandpit and embrace the tech.

But the older I get, the more aware I am of how little I know.

I’m not here to save anyone.
I’m busy enough just holding my own.
And I’m seeking peace — not polarity.

Now.

To the crew I just bought a bra from online…

Much love,
Kate & MH